By Justica Anima
Recently,
I watched a movie which got me wondering. In the movie, a desperate
guy wanted to get a wife.
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He combed through everywhere in search of the
bone-of-his-bones but to no avail. In the end, he decided to confide in
his pastor and friend. He fasted and prayed according to the leading of
his pastor friend.
At the end of the fast, he met a young lady he wanted to
propose to but found out that she was a sex worker. Well, it happened
that it was God's chosen wife for him. He had to convince her to stop
her immoral acts. Finally, she did and they got married happily.
Brothers, what will make you consider marrying a sex
worker? The reality however is that men never want to share their women
with the exception of a few who would not mind (did I hear, never? ).
Last year, I read an article a website posted on Facebook.
It was about a
fifty-something years old ex sex worker who shared her story of how she
ended up in the act. She also shared her sad story of abuse and
disrespect to her womanhood. Fortunately for her, she found love at the
point when she thought it was the end of the road for her. They were
married for twenty three years at the time of the publication. She also
shared how loving and caring her husband was, and how much he respected
her despite her past.
In other settings, this may seem okay. Let's come to
Ghana, or perhaps Africa, where we hold strong moral and cultural
values. A woman who cheats in a relationship can even fail to pass as a
wife material. Talk less of a sex worker. Worst case, you may accept to
marry her but the society will condemn you. The average Ghanaian man
will even use that past as a reference point whenever there is a
misunderstanding. Most men will chase after them because they are
beautiful, available, and good in bed; are these not what you seek in a
woman?
The pivot of this discussion is however not the role the
woman plays as a sex worker. The issue is whether or not she fits into
the category as a wife. Sometimes, such people have very good hearts and
only need a little love and encouragement and a support system. Instead
of pushing them away, I believe it's about time some men married them
and showed them the way to liberation and compassion. You will be
surprised at the level of loyalty some of these women carry.
Some also
have great ambitions that may have been shattered by their homes or
society due to broken homes, irresponsible parenting, and poverty.
Society has a great role to play in bringing up female
children. Women by their nature are very dependent on society for growth
and development. The number of great women who succeed in life mostly
have a solid support system either from the family, school, religious
institutions, or society in general. It is about time we gave ear to the
needs of women and girls.
Parents should be more keen on the girl
child. Organisations and Stakeholders should also pay attention to the
needs of women and girl child development by intervening in areas where they fall short such as education, training and job creation.
As for men who abuse women, the least said about them the
better. And to those who seek sexual favors from vulnerable women...
Ayekoo!(Well done!) For all you know, you are the ones promoting sex
workers in the world today. As I mentioned earlier, most of these women
have good hearts and their behaviors may have been triggered by a
horrible background, find out and be good towards them. Marry them if it
demands you should.
I am not here to advocate that the act is a good one. However, I am here to question
the status quo. Do Men marry sex workers? Will you allow your son or
brother to marry one? Do you know someone who married a sex worker? What
is your opinion on the subject matter? I for one believe that they are
also humans deserving of love.
Come to think of it, if you can patronize
them why not commit anyway?
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